This message is mainly for certain Black men I know and new ones I have met ... and you know who you are...
FIRST let me state this...No Offense intended to my White sister-girls...
BUT...
I will NOT allow myself to be compared to a white woman as if that is the true 'mark' and measure of self worth and value, that I must live 'UP' to. I won't be measured by any other woman on any level, quality or trait
... but hear me out!
I am venting on a very specific issue here...
It is quite alright that Black men choose to be inter-racially involved. The law allows that now - it's not a big deal. BUT when some decide to be intra-racially denigrating as if being involved with a woman of his own culture, background and skin tone, is beneath him - because of the aforementioned traits, that's where I get highly agitated.
Over the weekend, a black man (during a speed date) said to me - now that I'm getting older, I thought I'd "TRY" talking to a black woman ... one within my age bracket. I wanted to 'SEE' what that would be like... SO FAR... you seem normal and CLOSE to what I'm USED TO... what the HADES did that mean... ?
That last question is rhetorical... trust me... I lived with such 'THOUGHTS' or lack of ... for over two years with Mr. C. (with his TYPE- penchants, proclivities, and 'extreme' preference for white women). It was to the point of making me physically ill most days...
I feel sorry for those men who can't see what's in their hearts because their eyes are blinded by color...
But... I'm never going to try to CHANGE their minds or their feelings, or their prejudices. All I do know however, is that I refuse to give them more than 30 seconds of my time... which is about as long as it takes for me to see through to the bottom of their shallow pools...
The term Angry Black Woman was probably invented by the very same Black man who pissed her off by offering her such ignorance as I have been discussing here -- dismissing her because of the color of her skin... as if this alone defined her, cursed her. In my thoughts, he tried to convince her of this lie, expecting her to believe it, value it, and take it on as if it was a burden worth carrying.
Emotionally Volatile... that's what black women in the workplace are said to be by researchers on the subject (Hofsted, 1945). Perhaps the researchers needed to do a home study... see if these very same black women woke up to a black man telling her "if only you were white you'd be perfect".... grrrr.
Okay, that is my VENT for today... oh... and tomorrow too, if it comes up again.
FIRST let me state this...No Offense intended to my White sister-girls...
BUT...
I will NOT allow myself to be compared to a white woman as if that is the true 'mark' and measure of self worth and value, that I must live 'UP' to. I won't be measured by any other woman on any level, quality or trait
... but hear me out!
I am venting on a very specific issue here...
It is quite alright that Black men choose to be inter-racially involved. The law allows that now - it's not a big deal. BUT when some decide to be intra-racially denigrating as if being involved with a woman of his own culture, background and skin tone, is beneath him - because of the aforementioned traits, that's where I get highly agitated.
Over the weekend, a black man (during a speed date) said to me - now that I'm getting older, I thought I'd "TRY" talking to a black woman ... one within my age bracket. I wanted to 'SEE' what that would be like... SO FAR... you seem normal and CLOSE to what I'm USED TO... what the HADES did that mean... ?
That last question is rhetorical... trust me... I lived with such 'THOUGHTS' or lack of ... for over two years with Mr. C. (with his TYPE- penchants, proclivities, and 'extreme' preference for white women). It was to the point of making me physically ill most days...
I feel sorry for those men who can't see what's in their hearts because their eyes are blinded by color...
But... I'm never going to try to CHANGE their minds or their feelings, or their prejudices. All I do know however, is that I refuse to give them more than 30 seconds of my time... which is about as long as it takes for me to see through to the bottom of their shallow pools...
The term Angry Black Woman was probably invented by the very same Black man who pissed her off by offering her such ignorance as I have been discussing here -- dismissing her because of the color of her skin... as if this alone defined her, cursed her. In my thoughts, he tried to convince her of this lie, expecting her to believe it, value it, and take it on as if it was a burden worth carrying.
Emotionally Volatile... that's what black women in the workplace are said to be by researchers on the subject (Hofsted, 1945). Perhaps the researchers needed to do a home study... see if these very same black women woke up to a black man telling her "if only you were white you'd be perfect".... grrrr.
Okay, that is my VENT for today... oh... and tomorrow too, if it comes up again.
